It doesnt have to be that way

It seems many people have masochistic tendencies and the media is doing much to promote it. I once saw a Nigerian tv series and a young female character bragged to her friends that her boyfriend only hit her because he was a 'real man'. The worse kind is emotional and verbal abuse. There's nothing more demoralizing than a downcast from the person you are involved with. Sometimes their words begin to define you. They tell you what you are fit for and what is fit for you, you keep metamorphosing until they finally leave and then you are a whole other insect, and cannot even find your footing. But God dey sha.

I used to think that way also, I mean after seeing Eminem's "Love the way you lie" music video. I thought, while lying down in my bed shared with three buxom sisters at the peak of puberty and a skinny one; that such a love was the greatest. Bitter-Sweet, the best taste the world could offer. Because too sweet can be boring, too bitter was, well just too bitter.

So many a time, I had recommended to male friends to slap ladies they were in relationships with into their right senses. God forgive my ignorance. Sometimes I had even instigated a fight, just to make up back with a person I was in a relationship with. I must have been so deceived by the Devil's idea of love. 

Love can be what it is. Just love and sweet to extremities. A man can respect and honour his wife and she can reciprocate and they will not be boring. 

I do not appeciate disagreements so much anymore. When a whole tears into half to fight, it is always against themselves. But in oneness it is against an external force. 

I wish I learnt earlier that a small residue of pain and tears do not add more flavor to the pot if love. It just makes it something else. What I think is, you can go through pain because of love but you should not go through pain in love.

Saturday Night Fever

I am watching invasion 1879 with my sisters. Its better than I expected but most of the scenes are within a wooden shack and they only have one designed graphic for night time and it is shown almost six times. The haircut of the chiefs are, well... You know almost as they should be. Though the Oba's is like that of a mulatto. I spent four years in that state. I never ventured to visit the museum. Now that I think of it, I am not exactly pleased with myself.

It amuses me how offended the Oba is at the position of Queen Victoria as the monarch of England i am very certain that if he had been told of her status as a mother of nine, he would have been more convinced that her position is in the kitchen and underneath a man on a straw bed as she obviously finds much pleasure in. It reminds me once again why I appreciate the British and how progressive they are. But I wonder what they are progressing towards, retiring prime ministers and leaving the EU and all.

We are expecting the power to go out soon. It disappoints us that it is taking this long but we are grateful at the expense of our heart rates. My dear PHCN can give someone high blood pressure.